There’s no doubt each of us will make decisions throughout our lives that feel like they’re permanent. That nothing can change them and this is the specific path we’ve chosen.

Now, outside of say having and loving children, there aren’t many things that actually have us tied to one position. Don’t like your job? Learn and apply to new ones. Need to move? Research where you can and would like to live next.

We convince ourselves that certain amounts of time, money, and other resources spent on something mean that we can’t choose anything else. This is known as the sunk cost fallacy.

But what if we instead said no matter what, those things or moments are already gone, and we can always change our minds? I really admired that even though this week’s guests, Jill Tyler and Jon Sybert, had a Michelin-recognized restaurant for 10 years (already such a feat!), they decided it really wasn’t the restaurant they wanted to do anymore. They started over, and their new spot Rye Bunny is already a triumph less than a year in.

And it’s not just that the tables are packed most nights or that the restaurant is earning praise. It’s because they followed their hearts and decided to build what was right for them, not just what others think is “the best.”

That’s a real marker of success. When you feel strong, confident, and happy with what you’re doing. It’s okay if the first choice doesn’t end up being what’s right forever. You can always change course and continue to make it fit for you.

As my Headspace meditations like to tout, the only thing permanent is impermanence. Only you can decide what is truly what you’re meant to be doing, even if that looks different than before.